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How to know your partner has narcissistic tendencies.

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Narcissism is a personality disorder in human beings in which a person has an inflated sense of self-importance. Narcissistic personality disorder involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Others often describe people with NPD as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding.

There are many signs to know if your partner has narcissistic tendencies.

Superiority and entitlement

Superiority is the number one sign of a narcissist. This is different from self-confidence alone. There is a definite hierarchy, with the narcissist at the top which is the only place they feel safe narcissist have to be the best, the most right, and the most competent, do everything their own way , own everything and control everyone.

Narcissists will do anything to get the superior feeling it can mean being the worst, the most wrong, or the illest, upset, or injured. Then they feel entitled to receive soothing concern and recompense and even the right to hurt you to make things even.

Lack of empathy

Narcissists lack the ability to feel what the other person is feeling. They lack the skill to make you feel seen, validating, understood, or accepted because they don’t grasp the concept of feelings

Does your partner care when you’ve had a bad day at work, fought with your best friend, or scuffle with your parents? Or do they get bored when you express the things making you mad and sad?

Lack of empathy makes true emotional connection and relationship with narcissists difficult or even impossible. They just don’t notice what someone else is feeling.

Exaggerated need for attention and validation

A narcissist has a constant need for attention even just by following you around the house asking you to find things or constantly saying something to grab your attention. They also need validation only when it comes from others. Even then it doesn’t count for much. No matter how much you tell a narcissist you love them, admire them, or approve of them they never feel it’s enough because deep down they don’t believe anyone can love them.

They constantly try to elicit praise and approval from others to shore up their fragile egos, but no matter how much they’re given, they always want more.

Lack of responsibility

Although narcissists want to be in control, they never want to be responsible for the results—unless, everything goes exactly their way and their desired result occurs. When things don’t go according to their plan or they feel criticized or less than perfect, the narcissist places all the blame and responsibility on you. Most often, however, the narcissist blames the one person who is the most emotionally close, most attached, loyal, and loving in their life.

Lack of boundaries.

Narcissists believe that everything belongs to them, everyone thinks and feels the same as they do, and everyone wants the same things they do. They are shocked and highly insulted to be told no. If a narcissist wants something from you, they’ll go to great lengths to figure out how to get it through persistence, cajoling, demanding, rejecting, or pouting. These are all common narcissist behavior

They gaslight you

Gaslighting is a form of manipulation and emotional abuse, and it’s a hallmark of narcissism. Narcissists may spew blatant lies, falsely accuse others, spin the truth, and ultimately distort your reality.

They do this to cause others to doubt themselves as a way to gain superiority. Narcissists thrive off of being worshipped, so they use manipulation tactics to get you to do just that.

 Anxiety

This is a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease about something with an uncertain outcome. But maximum narcissists undertaking their tension onto their closest cherished ones, accusing them of being negative, unsupportive, mentally ill, now no longer placing them first, now no longer responding to their needs, or being selfish. All that is designed to switch tension to the cherished one in an try to now no longer sense it themselves. As you sense worse and worse, the narcissist feels higher and higher. In fact, they sense more potent and greater advanced as you sense your anxiety and depression grow.

Perfectionism

You can identify a narcissist by their extremely high need for everything to be perfect. They believe that it should be perfect, that you should be perfect, that events should turn out exactly as planned, and that life should turn out exactly as they envision it. This is an excruciating impossible demand, which leads the narcissist to feel dissatisfied and unhappy most of the time. The demand for perfection leads the narcissist to complain and be constantly dissatisfied.

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Rottweiler Dog Breed Information and Personality Traits

Not recommended for first-time owners, the rottweiler needs extensive and continuous socialization to be a good family companion. However, this intelligent, confident dog is easy to keep despite its size.

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Rottweiler At a glance

Size:

Weight Range:

Male: 85-135 lbs.
Female: 80-100 lbs.

Height at Withers:

Male: 26 in.

Female: 24 in.

Features:

Floppy ears (naturally)

Expectations:

Exercise Requirements: >40 minutes/day

Bred For:

Cattle drover, guardian, draft

Coat:

Length: Short
Characteristics: Flat
Colors: Black with tan markings
Overall Grooming Needs: Low


Energy Level: Bred to work
Longevity Range: 8-11 yrs.

History:

Rottweilers rank as one of the most ancient breeds. They accompanied the Romans through Germany, driving their cattle and guarding outposts. Many were left behind and, in the town of Rottweil in southern Germany, they became the breed we know today. Rottweilers are considered to be in the mastiff family. Rottweilers were instrumental in the development of the Doberman Pinscher much later.

Today they work in security and herding.

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This issue of being legislators and salaried employees at the same time is a dilemma for Kenya

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It is not possible to be, physically, found in different places at the same time. You cannot have your cake and eat it.

The work for members of Parliament and county assembly is part time. The Constitution does not oblige them to be salaried (full time employees).

They should only be remunerated by being paid appropriate allowances whenever they avail themselves for representation, legislation and oversight activities.

Earn Appropriate Allowances

Therefore, MPs, rightly, earn appropriate allowances but use their privileged position to steal from the public by making themselves salaried.

It is unconstitutional and irregular for legislators to be salaried. The Constitution presumes that those offering themselves for election or nomination.

To legislative Chambers are patriotic leaders, ready to sacrifice for Kenya without strings attached.

Required To Renounce

This is why they are not required to renounce their means of earning a living unless they are public service employees who must, voluntarily, resign.

In this context, those who offer themselves for election or nomination to Parliament and County Assembly should be the unemployed. Resignees, retirees, self-employed, or consultants in their own professional fields.

They have the power and authority to allocate their time to allow for representation, legislation and oversight roles of elective offices.

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Lack of Quorum

Lack of quorum experienced in political Chambers is, mostly, a result of the absentee legislators having prioritized their time on personal ventures as opposed to legislative duties.

Full time employees/workers answer to their employers for all the 30 days in a month. They cannot leave their places of work.

To engage in political office work for which they also get remunerated. It is double standards and double payment.

The MPs and MCAs

The MPs and MCAs who are still on payrolls of their former institutions are stealing time from their former employers by being paid salary for 30 days.

Of work per month while some of those days are spent in political Chambers for which they are also paid salaries and allowances.

In short, salaried people are full time employees. They do not qualify to offer themselves for election or nomination.

To Parliament or County Assembly

To Parliament or County Assembly unless they resign from their salaried posts. Or take leave of absence without pay that guarantees them to get back their jobs in future.

They cannot be in political Chambers and other designated offices at the same time. For public information, we have already petitioned the Salaries and Remuneration Commission (SRC).

To abolish salary for MPs and MCAs and only recommend payment of appropriate allowances. In strict compliance with Article 230 (4) (a) of the Constitution.

On Remuneration and Benefits

On remuneration and benefits of State Officers. This is read with Article 230 (5) (a) on public compensation as a fundamental principle in fiscal sustainability.

This is in line with the understanding that among elected leaders, only the Presidency is, constitutionally, barred from holding any other office (Article 131 (3)) and, therefore, entitled.

To earn salary for a livelihood. Unfortunately, the tenure of the pioneer SRC commissioners expired in December 2017. The new team has not been constituted to consider this long overdue petition. What do others say on this sensitive but grave matter?

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How to Have a Cat If You Have Cat Allergies

Cat allergies are twice as common as dog allergies. But contrary to what you might think, it’s not the fur or hair that’s the real problem.

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Cats are avoided by people because they fear or dislike them, there is some hope for those who avoid cats because of fear of allergic reactions. A lot will depend on the nature of your allergies. If yours are of the sneezing, watery eyes, and running nose variety, you may be able to slowly and gradually build up your tolerance to cats.

However, before getting a cat, you should undergo allergy testing first, particularly if you suffer from asthma. For example, about 30 percent of people with allergies are allergic to cats and dogs, but studies show that cat allergies are far higher than that.

Here are tips to help you gain control over your cat allergy symptoms while enjoying the lifelong companionship of a feline.

Cat Allergy Symptoms

It’s tough to miss cat allergy symptoms. They tend to happen whenever there’s a feline nearby or you’ve encountered some cat hair lingering on furniture. Your body’s immune system is reacting to the proteins that are found in a cat’s urine, saliva, or dander. Here is a list of typical cat allergy symptoms you may experience:

  • Sneezing
  • Coughing
  • Wheezing
  • Skin rash
  • Nasal congestion
  • Trouble breathing
  • Runny/stuffed nose

Rid Your Home of Other Allergens

If you’re considering bringing a new pet into your home, first rid your home of as many other allergens as possible, including mites, dust, and mold. Most airborne allergens (including cat dander) cling to soft materials such as curtains and drapes, upholstery, and floor coverings. Here are common ways to clear your home of allergens:

  • Substitute blinds for window coverings. If you rent, and can’t get permission to switch them, keep the curtains washed and frequently vacuum the drapes.
  • If possible, replace overstuffed upholstered furniture with leather.
  • Eliminate decorative scented candles, potpourri, and plug-in air fresheners, all of which can exacerbate allergy symptoms.
  • Consider replacing wall-to-wall carpeting with wood or tile floors. Otherwise, thoroughly vacuum carpeting regularly.

Consider Allergy Medication

Medication is often the first thing people consider when dealing with a cat allergy. Over-the-counter or prescription medication, natural remedies such as BioAllers, or a series of allergy shots (immunotherapy) are all worth investigating. Keep in mind that you should always check with your physician or allergist before embarking on a new treatment.

Visit Friends With Cats

Choose to visit a friend with an outgoing cat to allow you to get up close and personal with a feline, but on a limited basis. Ask your friend to choose a time when the cat is fed, comfortable, and relaxed. Ask your friend permission to use an allergy relief spray or wipes on the cat if necessary while you’re visiting. 

Use your allergy medication half an hour before the arranged time. When you arrive, let the cat set the pace. You may be greeted by being sniffed at your feet and legs at first. You can dangle your hand to see if the cat rubs up against it, which can indicate petting is acceptable. If your allergies are still under control, you might allow the cat to jump onto your lap. Make your visit about 15 minutes at the most to keep both you and the cat comfortable.

In another week or two, visit again with the same cat, and stay longer, up to half an hour. Begin to branch out and visit other friends with cats.

Consider Hypoallergenic Breeds

There are a few breeds of cats considered to be hypoallergenic, or at least helpful to those with allergies, including the following breeds:

  • Sphynx: These cats have very fine, sparse hair.
  • Rex: Certain rex breeds, like the Devon Rex have fine, wavy or curly hair that may not trap dander the way thicker coats do.
  • Siberian: These cats lack the Fel d 1 protein in their saliva that becomes dander after grooming, a characteristic that may be good for those with allergies.

To find out more information about these specific breeds, see if there’s a local cat show you can attend where you can observe them. Many cat breed clubs hold shows highlighting individual breeds.

Visit Your Local Animal Shelter

Once you feel that your allergies are under control, consider adoption. Here’s how to navigate a trip to your local animal shelter or a cat adoption event.

  • Dress in comfortable, casual clothes.
  • Remember to take any allergy medications beforehand.
  • Prepare to spend an hour or so at the shelter or event.
  • Take a few cats, one at a time, into a private room, if available, and spend some time with each one.

It’s often been said that cats usually chose their humans, so let a cat’s actions guide you in your choice. You may need to visit the shelter several times before you find the cat that fits your lifestyle.

Make sure your home is completely prepared for a new pet. Once you have made your choice, talk to the personnel, tell them about your allergies, and ask if the cat may be returned, as a last resort, if your allergies are aggravated once you bring the pet home. As a last tip, try to restrict your new cat from going into your bedroom so you can sleep free of even the faintest of allergy symptoms.

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