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This Is The Real Reason Why Men Cheat

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Their decision to cheat comes from the desire to experience the love and affection they expect to receive from their wives, but has faded over time. After years of enduring those unmet needs, infidelity became a way for them to be doted on while not having to give up a partnership that still means the world to them.

Sex naturally plays a role in the decision as well, as 76% of the men in this sample report being in a sexless marriage. However, where their own orgasms and sexual pleasure motivated women, hearing praise for their sexual prowess made men feel worthy and manly. To them, their wives treat sex as a chore and lack all enthusiastic about it. Men internalize that disinterest as “I’m not good enough” and “I’m a disappointment.” They feel undervalued not only as a sexual partner but as a person. Their outside partners function as the person to whom they go for that praise and recognition. And more often than not, just one “monogamous” affair partner is all they need, unlike many women, who prefer to maintain several concurrent affairs.

That is not to say, though, that the decision to cheat functioned as the first step men took when they felt unsatisfied in their marriage. In fact, these men spent years speaking to their spouse about what was and wasn’t working for them, and asking how they could improve, but weren’t given a substantial answer – or much acknowledgment, in many cases.

Articulating that feeling of under-appreciation and asking, “Why aren’t you interested in me anymore?” can be a very hard thing to do. And when you pass that hurdle and then face a spouse who simply turns a blind eye, is the next step to file for divorce and upend your life? That’s not an option for many people, whether it be financial restraints, children, or knowing it’s not worth it to end a marriage over one missing component. As one participant told me, “I decided my marriage had too many great things about it to end things because of the lack of intimacy.”

“[My outside partner and I] know that we do not desire a change in our primary partners. We are not ‘in love.’ We enjoy each other, thank each other, and go back to our lives. My wife is my best friend. I enjoy her immensely. Our personalities match well. Our goals are well aligned, as I believe are the goals of my outside partner.”

These men were in real pain before they decided to cheat, both from the neglect they were facing and the realization that the reality of marriage didn’t line up with their expectations. For many, part of that pain persists knowing that the woman who’s now satisfying their needs isn’t the one woman they ultimately want that satisfaction from their wives.

Would these men be happiest with just their wives? Contrary to the common “men can’t resist temptation” narrative, yes, they would be (most men actually enjoy monogamy and are often far less interested in the idea of an open marriage than women are). But circumstances change and reality sets in. Infidelity works as a viable path for them to preserve their happiness and ultimately their marriage.

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Ways to controll your anger

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Anger control is important for helping you avoid saying or doing something you may regret. Before anger escalates, you can use specific strategies for controlling anger.

Go for a walk

Taking a walk can help calm your nerves and reduce anger. Go for a walk, ride your bike, or hit a few golf balls. Anything that gets your limbs pumping is good for your mind and body.

Mentally Escape

Slip into a quiet room, close your eyes, and practice visualizing yourself in a relaxing scene. Focus on details in the imaginary scene: What color is the water? How tall are the mountains? What do the chirping birds sound like? This practice can help you find calm amidst anger.

Stop Talking

When you’re steamed, you may be tempted to let the angry words fly, but you’re more likely to do harm than good. Pretend your lips are glued shut, just like you did as a kid. This moment without speaking will give you time to collect your thoughts.

Imagine forgiving them

Finding the courage to forgive someone who has wronged you takes a lot of emotional skill. If you can’t go that far, you can at least pretend that you’re forgiving them, and you’ll feel your anger slip away.

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Home remedies to relieve menstrual cramps

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Cramps affect many people before and during their period. While some people only experience mild cramps, others aren’t quite as lucky. In some cases, the pain from period cramps can be extreme and make a serious dent in your daily life.

If period pain is cramping your style every month, there are steps you can take to gain back control.

Here are proven home remedies that may ease your discomfort, and help you get back on track with your busy life.

1. Drink more water

Bloating can cause discomfort and make menstrual cramps worse. Drinking water can reduce bloating during your period and alleviate some of the pain it causes.

Also, drinking hot water can increase blood flow throughout your body and relax your muscles. This can lessen cramps caused by uterine contractions.

2. Enjoy herbal teas

Herbal teas have anti-inflammatory properties and antispasmodic compounds that can reduce the muscle spasms in the uterus that cause cramping.

Drinking chamomile, fennel, or ginger tea is an easy, natural way to relieve menstrual cramps. Plus, herbal teas can have other benefits like stress relief and helping with insomnia.

3. Soak in a tub.

Soaking in a warm bathtub is another way to surround your pelvic muscles with the warmth they need to relax.

You can enhance the pain-relieving power of a good soak by adding a few drops of essential oils — like lavender, sage, or rose — to your bathwater.

4. Try dietary supplements

Vitamin D can help your body absorb calcium and reduce inflammation.

Other supplements, including omega-3, vitamin E, and magnesium, can help reduce inflammation and might even make your periods less painful.

For best results, take supplements every day, not just during your period. Also, because some supplements interact with medications, be sure to ask your doctor before taking anything new.

5. Reach for decaf

Caffeine causes your blood vessels to narrow. This can constrict your uterus, making cramps more painful.

If you need your coffee fixed, switch to decaf during your period. If you rely on caffeine to beat the afternoon slump, eat a snack high in protein or take a quick 10-minute walk to boost your energy.

6. Use a heat patch

Using a heated patch or wrap on your abdomen can help relax the muscles of your uterus. It’s these muscles that cause period cramps.

Heat can also boost circulation in your abdomen, which can reduce pain.

7. Exercise

If you’re in pain, exercise might be the last thing on your mind. But even gentle exercise releases endorphins that make you feel happy, reduce pain and relax your muscles.

Fifteen minutes of yoga, light stretching, or walking might be all you need to feel better.

8. Reduce stress

Stress may make cramps worse. Use stress-relief techniques like meditation, deep breathing, yoga, or your own favorite way to relieve stress.

If you’re not sure how to relieve stress, try guided imagery. Simply close your eyes, take a deep breath and imagine a calm, safe place that’s significant to you.

Stay focused on this space for at least a few minutes while you take slow, deep breaths.

9. Massage therapy

Massages may reduce uterine spasms by relaxing the uterus. In order to most effectively manage period cramps, massage therapy should focus on the abdominal area.

But a full body massage that reduces your overall stress may also help to relieve menstrual cramps.

10. Eat anti-inflammatory foods

Some foods can offer natural relief for cramps and they taste great. Anti-inflammatory foods can help promote blood flow and relax your uterus.

Try eating berries, tomatoes, pineapples, and spices like turmeric, ginger, or garlic. Leafy green vegetables, almonds, walnuts, and fatty fish, like salmon, can also help reduce inflammation.

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Most Influential Kenyan Entrepreneurs of 2021 .

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1.Churchill

Churchill is regarded as the father of the comedy industry in Kenya. He runs the multimillion Laugh Industry.

The 43-year-old is credited for nurturing the biggest names including, Professor Hamo, MCA Tricky, Chemutai, MC Jessy, Eric Omondi and Chipukeezy.

Churchill has over 7.3 million followers on Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, Instagram and Twitter

2.Akothee

Esther Akoth, popularly known as Akothee, is a musician who doubles up as a businesswoman.

She is the founder of Akothee Safaris, a tour company based in Kenya. She runs Akothee Foundation, Aknotela Entertainment Ltd and Akothee Homes, a real estate business.

Akothee has over 5.7 million followers across various social media platforms.

The no non-sense entrepreneur has used her huge social media presence for brand influencing.

The self-proclaimed president of single mothers has worked with multiple brands, with the latest being Rosy Tissues Kenya, Muthokinju Services and Premier Foods Ltd.

In 2021, Forbes ranked her the 15th richest musician in Africa with a networth of $ 10 million (KSh 1.09 billion).

3. Jalang’o

With over 4.6 million followers, comedian Jalang’o is one of the influential Kenyan entrepreneurs.

Jalang’o, whose real name is Felix Odiwour, rose to fame after appearing as an actor in the local comedy series Papa Shirandula.

Since then, he never looked back as he used his fame to establish his brand besides working as a radio presenter for different stations, including Radio Maisha, Hot 96, Milele FM and now Kiss 100.

He is the proprietor of Jalang’o TV, with close to half a million subscribers on YouTube.

4. Njugush

Timothy Kimani Ndegwa, popularly referred to as Njugush, rose to fame as an actor in the local series Real Househelps of Kawangware.

He quit the show in May 2016, citing changes in scripting and directing. The witty comedian reinvented himself and grew his brand on social media platforms.

Besides posting funny videos on YouTube with over 535,000 subscribers, he has landed multimillion advertising deals with corporates like Safaricom.

Njugush further has 2.1 million followers on Instagram, 1.3 million on Facebook and 150,000 on Twitter.

He is the founder of clothing line, Be Knit, which he manages with his lovely wife Celestine Ndinda aka Wakavinye.

5.Anerlisa Muigai

The Keroche heiress was named one of the 30 most promising young entrepreneurs by Forbes in 2018.

She is the daughter of Keroche founder Tabitha Karanja, one of the wealthiest women in Kenya. The 33-year-old is the founder of Nero, a water brand company.

On Instagram, the beauty queen has 1 million followers. In August 2021, Hopper HQ Ranked Anerlisa at number 30 in Africa and 271 worldwide in the list of best-paid celebs on Instagram.

According to Hopper, the beauty gets KSh 436,000 per paid post. Her net worth is estimated at over KSh 1 billion.

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